Unfortunately today, we do not know how to separate sin from the sinner. We should hate the sin, not the sinner. Look beyond the sin of a sinner & extract his best qualities.
No person willingly will goes to a dumpyard. However, If there is gold beneath the ground of that dumpyard, they will rush to clear it out & extract its valuable contents.
Similarly, people are like mines of gold & silver. Dig deep in their hearts & take the best out of them.
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلّم said, narrating from His Lord, “My love is incumbent for those who love one another for my sake; those who sit with one another for My sake; those who visit each other for My sake; and those who spend on each other for My sake.” [Musnad Ahmad]
On being asked how one loves others (e.g. parents, siblings, friends etc) only for Allah Ta’ala, Mufti Ebrahim Salejee of Ispingo Beach said,
Regularly meditate over the fact that Allah alone is eternal. If you love anything for Him then that love will be lasting and if it is that you love something not for the sake of Allah then your love will remain just till you or that thing remains
A prince once said to one of the ‘Aarifeen (knowers), “Ask me for what you need.” The response of the ‘Aarif was,
“Is that the way you speak to me when I have two servants who are your masters?” When the prince asked, “Who are these two servants?” The ‘Aarif answered,
Greed and desire; for I have conquered them yet they have conquered you; I rule over them while they rule you.
If we conquer these two bad traits of greed and desires then we are masters over them. People may be kings and have authority but if they are ruled by greed and desires then they are servants to these two traits.
“The Ninety-Nine Beautiful Names of God” by Abu Hamid Al-Ghazali (Rahimahullah)
Dhikr is the means by which Stations yield their fruit, until the seeker reaches the Divine Presence. On the journey to the Divine Presence the seed of remembrance is planted in the heart and nourished with the water of praise and the food of glorification, until the tree of dhikr becomes deeply rooted and bears its fruit. It is the power of all journeying and the foundation of all success.
It is the reviver from the sleep of heedlessness, the bridge to the One remembered.
Good character is an attribute of the Master of the Messengers صلى الله عليه وسلّم, and the best of the works of the veracious (Siddiqeen). It is in reality half of religion, the fruits of the spiritual struggles of the god-fearing, and the efforts of the worshippers.
Lowly character is a killing poison, a deadly destroyer, a humiliating abaser, clear lowliness, and filth that distances one from the sanctuary of the Lord of the worlds.
Lowly character makes the one characterized by it of the Satans, and it is the open door to the burning fire of Allah, that Leaps up over the hearts (of men),(Quran, 104: 7) as good character is the open door to the bounties of the Gardens and proximity to the Merciful. Lowly character is a sickness of the heart and a disease of the lower self. It is a sickness that endangers the ever-lasting life.
Thus, it is necessary to pay utmost attention to it, even more than outward sickness.
Taken from advices of Shaykh Faraz Rabbani on Anger & Acquiring good Character
To gain visibility, one requires two types of lights: the light of the eyes and the external light of the sun or a lamp etc. Then only will one be able to clearly see what is before him. With the absence of any one of the two, one will not be able to see anything and is likely to lose his way or fall into danger.
Likewise, for spiritual guidance and sight, one needs the noor (light) of the heart and the noor (light) of the sunnat. Without any one of them one will create confusion in deen and is very likely to go astray.
One sunnat of Rasullallah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) is far more superior than a 1000 spiritual states of ecstasy that a person experiences.
It is the commitment to the sunnat that will take a person forward. If one holds firm to the sunnat, but does not experience any spiritual state etc. he will be successful. On the other hand, if a person is not committed to the sunnat, but has spiritual experiences then this is not a sign of him being successful.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee
Fudail ibn ‘Iyad at-Talaqani (Raheemahullah) said,
To neglect one’s religious practice for the sake of other people is a form of hypocrisy [riya’].
To perform one’s religious practice for the sake of other people is a form of polytheistic idolatry [shirk].
As for sincere devotion [ikhlas], it is being afraid that Allah ta’ala might chastise you for either of these two offenses
وَأَنَّهُ هُوَ أَضْحَكَ وَأَبْكَىٰ
And that it is He who makes [one] laugh and weep [Qur’an 3:43]
It becomes easy to forgive…
When you relalise this that then when someone hurts you and makes you cry, it was actually Allah ta’ala Who wanted it so, then it becomes easy to forgive
Aalimah S Ahmed
Man makes effort on sand [silicon] and makes microchips with value greater than gold. He makes effort upon metal and makes it fly [aeroplanes] what if he made effort upon himself, what spiritual heights he would also reach.
Nowadays the direction of our effort is on the outside rather than our inner-selves. That’s why there’s progress everywhere, the latest innovations are being produced, architecture of buildings becoming more adventurous, cars are becoming advanced as well. Take whatever, everything is getting better and better.
However, if mankind looks at themselves morally, they are declining.
The one who is always trying to discover the unknown, he could not discover himself. He who captured the rays of the sun, yet he failed to fill the void of his own life. The one who illuminated the world with lanterns failed to realise the darkness in his own heart. If there is darkness in one’s own heart, what’s the use of the light on the outside.
The area of effort is not just materialistic. A person must also work on his heart so he can progress internally as well.
Allaah has placed beauty within us which we need to bring out. When mankind makes effort on mines, they extract gold, silver, diamonds and other valuables. Similarly if he makes an effort on his heart, then he’ll reap courtesy, humbleness, compassion, and piety. These are the qualities which make a person valuable in the sight of Allaah. This beauty is present in everyone. Allah has placed this beauty inside every individual.
Shaykh Zulfiqar Ahmad Naqshbandi Source