Good character is an attribute of the Master of the Messengers صلى الله عليه وسلّم, and the best of the works of the veracious (Siddiqeen). It is in reality half of religion, the fruits of the spiritual struggles of the god-fearing, and the efforts of the worshippers.
Lowly character is a killing poison, a deadly destroyer, a humiliating abaser, clear lowliness, and filth that distances one from the sanctuary of the Lord of the worlds.
Lowly character makes the one characterized by it of the Satans, and it is the open door to the burning fire of Allah, that Leaps up over the hearts (of men),(Quran, 104: 7) as good character is the open door to the bounties of the Gardens and proximity to the Merciful. Lowly character is a sickness of the heart and a disease of the lower self. It is a sickness that endangers the ever-lasting life.
Thus, it is necessary to pay utmost attention to it, even more than outward sickness.
Taken from advices of Shaykh Faraz Rabbani on Anger & Acquiring good Character
To gain visibility, one requires two types of lights: the light of the eyes and the external light of the sun or a lamp etc. Then only will one be able to clearly see what is before him. With the absence of any one of the two, one will not be able to see anything and is likely to lose his way or fall into danger.
Likewise, for spiritual guidance and sight, one needs the noor (light) of the heart and the noor (light) of the sunnat. Without any one of them one will create confusion in deen and is very likely to go astray.
One sunnat of Rasullallah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) is far more superior than a 1000 spiritual states of ecstasy that a person experiences.
It is the commitment to the sunnat that will take a person forward. If one holds firm to the sunnat, but does not experience any spiritual state etc. he will be successful. On the other hand, if a person is not committed to the sunnat, but has spiritual experiences then this is not a sign of him being successful.
Mufti Ebrahim Salejee
Fudail ibn ‘Iyad at-Talaqani (Raheemahullah) said,
To neglect one’s religious practice for the sake of other people is a form of hypocrisy [riya’].
To perform one’s religious practice for the sake of other people is a form of polytheistic idolatry [shirk].
As for sincere devotion [ikhlas], it is being afraid that Allah ta’ala might chastise you for either of these two offenses
وَأَنَّهُ هُوَ أَضْحَكَ وَأَبْكَىٰ
And that it is He who makes [one] laugh and weep [Qur’an 3:43]
It becomes easy to forgive…
When you relalise this that then when someone hurts you and makes you cry, it was actually Allah ta’ala Who wanted it so, then it becomes easy to forgive
Aalimah S Ahmed
Man makes effort on sand [silicon] and makes microchips with value greater than gold. He makes effort upon metal and makes it fly [aeroplanes] what if he made effort upon himself, what spiritual heights he would also reach.
Nowadays the direction of our effort is on the outside rather than our inner-selves. That’s why there’s progress everywhere, the latest innovations are being produced, architecture of buildings becoming more adventurous, cars are becoming advanced as well. Take whatever, everything is getting better and better.
However, if mankind looks at themselves morally, they are declining.
The one who is always trying to discover the unknown, he could not discover himself. He who captured the rays of the sun, yet he failed to fill the void of his own life. The one who illuminated the world with lanterns failed to realise the darkness in his own heart. If there is darkness in one’s own heart, what’s the use of the light on the outside.
The area of effort is not just materialistic. A person must also work on his heart so he can progress internally as well.
Allaah has placed beauty within us which we need to bring out. When mankind makes effort on mines, they extract gold, silver, diamonds and other valuables. Similarly if he makes an effort on his heart, then he’ll reap courtesy, humbleness, compassion, and piety. These are the qualities which make a person valuable in the sight of Allaah. This beauty is present in everyone. Allah has placed this beauty inside every individual.
Shaykh Zulfiqar Ahmad Naqshbandi Source
Umar ibn Khattab RA once asked Ibn Ka’ab RA the definition of taqwa. In reply Ibn Ka’ab RA asked, “Have you ever had to traverse a thorny path?” Umar RA replied in the affirmative and Ka’ab RA continued, “How do you do so?”
Umar RA said that he would carefully walk through after first having collected all loose and flowing clothing in his hands so nothing gets caught in the thorns hence injuring him. Ka’ab RA said, “This is the definition of taqwa, to protect oneself from sin through life’s dangerous journey so that one can successfully complete the journey unscathed by sin.”
This mortal world of ours is a bed of thorns, full of the thorns of sins, therefore, one should live in this world in a way that one does not get entangled in the thorns of sin. The name of this attitude to life is Taqwa
“If you dislike them, then it is quite likely that you dislike something and Allah has placed a lot of good in it.” [Surah An-Nisaa’: verse 19]
Though addressed to men in regard to their wives (i.e. do not divorce them for something you dislike in them), this is a beautiful part of human relationship, not just in marriage but as a general principle which can be applied to our spouses, children and families.
Sometimes we do not like something about a person but maybe in that Allah ta’ala has placed benefit for us i.e. maybe Allah ta’ala will give reward in the Aakhirah if Sabr is made or maybe in comparison to that one negative, there may be so many positives. When there is something we dislike in a person then we should be positive about it and find something we like, as there will definitely be many more things we like in every single person.
These are noble characteristics of noble people who do not look at the superficial. They find good in every relationship and this is what we should do and when we do this, then dealing with people and life will become easy.
By being negative towards people we are making our own selves miserable and making others around us miserable too.
By being positive life becomes easier and if one is positive all the time then it becomes part of nature.
Aalimah S. Ahmed
Rajab al-Hanbali (Raheemahullah) mentioned that the great Sufi, Fudayl ibn al-`Iyad (Raheemahullah) explained Allah’s words,
“That He may test which of you is best in action” [Qur’an, 67:2] by saying,
That is, who is sincere in it and correct in it. And the action that is sincere but incorrect is not accepted. And if it is correct and insincere then it is also not accepted. It is only accepted when it is both sincere and correct. And it is only sincere when it is for the sake of Allah Most High, and correct when it is done according to the sunnah.
Read in full Intention: Validity And Sincerity
With regard to “holding the hand of Saints”, a poet describes as to how Allah ta’ala opens up the road;
My journey has become easy now that the winds have changed their direction. The lamps of the road have lit up now that I have held your hand.
When one “holds the hand” of a pious person, i.e. when he surrenders himself for reformation under the guidance of a qualified spiritual mentor i.e. a Shaykh, then it becomes easy for him to conform to the Sunnah and the Shar’iah, as well as to abstain from sins.